Women can be quite complicated when it comes to sexual desires. That is not a male perspective; it is a medical one. Sexual desire or libido in women is regulated by a complex interaction of hormones. With normal aging, a woman’s regular menstrual cycle, even taking birth control pills, can throw off this delicate hormonal balance. Add to that the increasingly stressful lifestyles that most women have been subjected to over the past few decades, and it is no wonder that many women have experienced a decreased libido. However, the good news is there are many ways that women can rekindle the old fires.
7 Ways Women Can Boost Libido
Recent studies have reported that at least one-third of all women suffer from a decreased or near total lack of sexual desire. Medical practitioners who specialize in the treatment of sexual dysfunction suspect the number may be even higher, as most women are reluctant to discuss sexual issues with their doctors. Also contributing to underreported numbers is that doctors themselves often are not comfortable bringing up issues of sexual wellness, particularly with female patients. According to Irwin Goldstein, M.D., director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego, “Sex drive is not a subject most doctors are comfortable discussing, because it’s not something they learn about in detail in medical school.”
However, it is something no woman should feel embarrassed about or uncomfortable speaking about, or worse yet, feel decreased sexual desire is just something you have to accept. Here are seven simple ways any women can boost their libido.
- Consider Changing Your Method of Birth Control – Recent studies have found that birth control pills may be one of the primary reasons for decreased libido in pre-menopausal women. The main hormone that is involved in sexual desire in women, surprisingly enough, is testosterone. Women produce testosterone, not enough to grow beards or huge muscles, but it is instrumental in libido and is released in abundance during ovulation. Most birth control pills suppress the production of testosterone. If a woman on oral contraception is experiencing a lowered libido, doctors often recommend a lower estrogen pill or trying a different method of birth control entirely.
- Get a Good Night’s Sleep – If you want a boost in bed, make sure you are getting enough of that other bedroom activity – sleep. Stress and lack of adequate sleep can lead to decreased sexual desire and function.
- Other Medications – Check any other prescription medications you are taking. It is not only birth control pills that can cause a decrease in libido in women. Medicines for high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, even for indigestion, can all impact libido. Check with your doctor for alternatives.
- Change the Environment – Is your bedroom set up for sex? Consider changing the mood to increase romance and desire. Try satin sheets, scents, romantic lighting – and for married couples with children; there is no greater mood killer then allowing the kids to hop into bed with you. Keep the Boudoir as a “Kid Free Zone.”
- Schedule Sex – Plan your “date nights.” Why not? You schedule everything else, from doctor’s appointments to mani-pedis. Scheduling sex not only will allow you to plan for a special romantic evening with your partner, but the anticipation can also be arousing.
- Manage Stress – Stress is not only a mood killer, but it is also a biological fact that it produces hormones such as cortisol, which can throw off a woman’s sexual desires. Find ways to de-stress such as warm baths, meditation, or Yoga, before sexual activity.
- Sexy Eating – “Sexy eating” isn’t only the kind like that famous scene in the movie 9 ½ weeks, although that might help! Some foods can kill a woman’s sexual appetite. For example, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found a link between a high cholesterol diet and women who have difficulty with arousal and orgasm. Consider a lower fat, lower cholesterol diet, and it can help your heart, as well as your love life!
Women are becoming much more vocal about their rights to a better sex life, and rightfully so! It is important for women suffering from decreased libido or other sexual wellness issues, not be embarrassed, and to be willing to speak to their medical professionals. Not only because of the many safe and effective treatment options now available, but also because a decreased sex drive, or painful vaginal intercourse, could be indicative of some other more severe medical conditions.