If you don’t get a good night’s sleep, your mind takes the hardest hit. Team no sleepers can tell you that their four to five hour a night sleep cycles make it harder to start work in the a.m. We weren’t all born Churchhills or Margaret Thatchers who only need a few hours of rest to take on the world. In fact the average individual requires 7-8 hours of shut eye, and teens require even more.
A few years ago, I would say that I slept best when nestled up to another warm body or object. My first snuggle buddy was a teddy bear named Henry, and then when married I twirled arms and legs around my husband who somehow I coslept with each one of my four babies. It made breastfeeding so much easier when a drowsy infant nestled close and drifted back into a deep slumber with a full belly by 4 am. In a daze my arm would cuddle my child close and I’d sleep through the entire feeding.
But then I started to understand why my grandparents slept in separate beds and later moved to different bedrooms. My grandmother hogged bedsheets and needed her room temp to be warmer than he. He could hang meat in his bedroom as he liked the air as cold as it could get. On top of freezing everyone into a hypothermic dream, he snored loud enough for the neighbors to think they heard rolling thunder.
In a study on sleep, it’s not uncommon for couples to consider complete rest as a solo act of survival. More than 63 percent of couples who share a common bed state that they avoid touching their partners at night, even subconsciously. Reasons include body heat, soreness on waking and their preferred sleeping positiong. Those who sleep closer than most complain that their rest isn’t as peaceful as it could have been. In fact 50 percent said that their snooze wasn’t restful at all.
Women report being less happy when they sleep with their partner, and like my grandmother use to say, it’s the darn snoring that’s a problem. Sleep studies report that the sound of the significant other’s snoring can wake them up and make it harder to fall back to sleep. But there’s hope. Some techniques to help partners who plan to bed together. One is to keep the room temperature between 60-67 degrees.
If one can’t handle the cool temperature a heavy blanket or a bed warming device on their side can help. Having separate blankets is a great way to prevent one from stealing the covers from their mate. Also, lavender on the pillow, ear plugs and a light blocking blinds help keep sleep disrupters away. For issues involving sleep apnea where snoring or worse, holding the breathe between snores, see a doctor as it’s a life threatening issue that can be alleviated with the proper treatment.